Dr John Demartini is a peak performance and human behavioural specialist. Essentially, he helps people unlock their maximum potential to reach optimal states of life; getting people to focus on their highest values and what truly matters to them most.
I've been interested in Demartini's work for some time, however this was the first time I had seen his speak in a public seminar. I wanted to give a brief overview on what he discussed, as I not only want to clarify what I gained, but I genuinely feel that a lot of friends could gain immense benefit from what he shares.
YOUR LIFE DEMONSTRATES YOUR VALUES
How are we spending our time during the day?
What daily activities are we putting our attention into?
What are our highest values/most important/highest priorities in our life?
What are our lowest values/least important/lowest priorities in our life?
How are our actions serving what is truly important to us?
In essence, the entire framework of this seminar payed great focus on value structures, as does the rest of his work.
Think of value structures like this:
HIGHEST VALUE/MOST IMPORTANT/TOP PRIORITY
MEDIUM VALUE/MILD IMPORTANCE/MID PRIORITY
LOWEST VALUE/LEAST IMPORTANT/LOWEST PRIORITY
It's pretty simple. If you're not focusing your attention at the top, you're going to be spending your time somewhere down the bottom. Wherever we're placing our focus, that's the life and the destiny we're creating for ourselves.
When people focus their attention, set goals & actionable plans, and live their lives congruent to their highest values, their lives are filled with meaning and purpose. Their self-worth increases. They're motivated and filled with a deep sense of achievement. They're spontaneously and creatively inspired. They have clarity and direction and become the leader of their own lives, rather than a follower of others.
Makes sense, right? Pretty straight-forward. Well, if it was this simple, why the hell had I not considered what my highest values were until the past few months?
Pretty interesting to reflect on how much time I've actually wasted in the past; time that could have been spent being much more proactive and taking actions towards what my values really are.
FILTERING REALITY TO YOUR VALUES
Essentially, the brain is really good at filtering out reality in accordance to what we perceive to be of most importance to us.
I paraphrase what Demartini stated: "Walk down the same shopping mall with your partner or friend, and you're basically walking down two different shopping malls. You will notice particular stores and filter out what is of no perceived interest to you, and they will do exactly the same according to what they consider to be of importance; hence, different shopping malls."
If we don't define our highest values, chances are we're spending our time focusing on lower priorities, and because of this, we'll be filtering our reality in regards to what we're paying attention to, which is most likely - yep, you guessed it: low priority/low value things.
When this is the case, we lack meaningful direction and seek actions that give us immediate gratification. In very basic terms, we get a hit of the neurotransmitter dopamine, which is the chemical responsible for the reward/pleasure complex in our brain, and when that wears off, we look for the short term fix again to get our hit of the feel good chemical.
This results in a cycle of constantly needing to seek out immediate gratification to momentarily feel good, instead of focusing on and setting goals that will truly inspire us and create long term fulfilment, meaning and purpose.
It takes a quick look at the produce/consume societal system to see this in effect: People buy material possessions - they momentarily feel pleasure - eventually it wears off - they feel the need to purchase new material possessions to get the same hit of feel good chemicals - the brain is conditioned to think happiness & fulfilment is derived from purchasing material objects - the cycle continues.
The same applies to checking mobile phones and social media constantly: In essence -conditioning the brain to seek out new stimuli, which we get rewarded for when we find it, which perpetuates the cycle of continually wanting to seek out new stimuli, getting that neurochemical hit from this immediate gratification.
THE IMPORTANT STUFF
Now, I didn't want this to be a huge write-up, so since I've established a little context regarding values, I'll post the most important points that Demartini spoke of (he mentioned more than five 'secrets').
These may help you gain some insight or give you the reminder you need to get back on track.
- Start with what you know and let what you know grow. Ask yourself the question: What do I know in my heart I'm committed to and inspired by?
What do I do that I love without needing motivation to do it?
- Fill your day with high priority things, so you don't give way to low priority distractions. If you're not motivated to achieve goals, they're not aligned with your values.
- Small steps build momentum. PRIORITISE and note down 6-7 small actions congruent with your highest values. Do this DAILY. This will create the feeling of accomplishment, and you'll be increasing momentum.
- DELEGATE lower priority tasks wherever and whenever possible to make more time for higher priority tasks. If you can't yet delegate, LINK whatever it is that you're doing and the reasons why you're doing them, to what you love doing.
- If acquiring large amounts of wealth is not one of your highest values, it will be a lot more challenging becoming wealthy. If you want wealth to be your goal, change your values to suit, or pay attention to how you can create wealth by doing what you love.
- Keep asking yourself the question: How do I get paid handsomely and beautifully to do what I love doing?? Find out what people's wants and needs are concerning your values, serve those people, create income.
- Think long term, or forever be chasing and working purely for money. How do you envision creating a chain reaction for future generations to benefit from?
Envisage a cause greater than one's self.
- Each of us is unique in our own way, and we each have our own gifts and inherent value systems, different to others around us. Don't compare YOURSELF to OTHERS. Compare your ACTIONS to your PLANS that will help you reach your highest values. Otherwise you'll be comparing yourself to the external perception of other people, whose reality and priorities are different to yours.
- Stop playing out antiquated stories from your past of blame & shame, and how & why you're a victim. Create stories that will benefit you in reaching what's most important to you.
- Conscious or unconscious, there are seven areas in our life that we yearn to empower and fulfil:
A spiritual quest - fulfilling a spiritual mission.
A mind development quest - awakening our mental & creative genius.
A vocational/career quest - developing success & achievement in a career.
A financial quest - obtaining financial freedom.
A family/relationship quest - the need for love & intimacy.
A social quest - our desire for social influence & leadership power.
A physical quest - wishing for vitality, wellness, beauty & attractiveness.
- Any area of our life that we don't empower, is an area that somebody else will overpower. If you don't decide what your values are, others will decide for you, and will continue to impose their own value systems onto your life. If you want change, change and clarify your values.
All in all, I'm stoked that I made the commitment to attend. It helped clarify my own direction and further aligned me to what I currently consider to be of highest value in my own life: self-development, reading & writing, health & fitness, nature & travel.
To clarify your highest values and work towards creating more meaning, purpose and fulfilment in your life, check out Demartini's online value determination test.
You'll need to create an account so you can login, and it'll take about an hour to fill out.
Various books by Demartini can be found on ebay and on amazon!
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